Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Asslamualikum
i have a probelm
i fall in love with my anti which is older than me about 12 years she is married woman and she has four childs and she also love me very much both of us want to marry , is it ok or not , and we used to holding hands and kissing only, but iam sincere with her and she also with me, waht should we do
guide us. and we also have restricted ourslves to do intercourse, and also praying from God. and we used to say our prayer regulalry and recite holy quran, and she cant take divorse from her husbnad, and we have promissed with each other if the situation will come fro marriage the we will marry.can i kiss her hands and hold her arms is it right ????????????????
your guidance is required.............?

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Answer:

Love with a married woman

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Sahih Muslim Hadith 3289 (part) Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

Allah's Messenger (saws) had forbidden a person making the proposal of marriage when his (muslim) brother has already made such a proposal.

The Messenger of Allah (saws) forbade the believers to send even a proposal of marriage to a woman, if he has knowledge that his muslim brother has already proposed to her!

To fall in love with a woman who is already married would indeed be a grave sin in the sight of the Lord All-Mighty. Regardless of what the condition of the married woman is with her husband, it is their and their families private affair. It does not behove a believer, who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day, to interfere in the affairs of the marriage and home of a non-mehram woman, and try to seduce her in any way to leave her husband and marry him instead! That would indeed be an abomination of a sin in the sight of Allah Subhanah.

Beloved brother in Islam, we beg you to fear Allah Subhanah and take the married woman out of your thoughts forever! Her condition with her husband is something she and her mehram family members need to sort out with her husband. The best thing you should do is absolutely 'nothing' regarding the state of that or any other married woman!

Beloved brother in Islam, we urge you to fear Allah Subhanah, for if you tried to woo her or seduce her or instigate her in any way, it would be regarded as an abomination of a sin in the sight of Allah Subhanah.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah's Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan