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Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
Dear Sir.
I am not a good muslim, I dont pray five times and all, however I have FAITH in
Allah only and I pray to him everyday within my heart and raise my hands every
night and pray to him before I go to sleep.
My problem is that I am a 23 year old girl. I had sex when I was 16 and I been
havin sex all these years.
I feel VERY BAD FOR THIS ACTION. I have asked Allah to forgive me and I cried
and I feel scared of going to hell for my actions. Is there anything I can do,
such as give money to poor in a certain amount that Allah will forgive me?
I mean I do give charity every month out of my salary however thats between
Allah and me, but for the sins I committed, I feel bad and want to do something
to make Allah forgive me? How can I repent please tell me?
Another thing. I was 17 when I got married with a non muslim man, he lied to me
he was a muslim. It`s not ma fault. We divorced after 6 months of unhappy
unfaithful marriage. We both cheated on each other cos of his lies from the
very beginning.
Later on last year I was 22 that time, I found a guy on the internet. He was a
Kashmiri from a conservative family. I am an open minded girl with tattoos and
piercings (this is my own deed) But the guy`s mother hit me on my wedding day
and I did not have sex with the guy at any point of ma life and neither did I
have sex with him on my wedding night and I divorced him cos he was listening
to his mother and puttin restrictions on me. He knew I was a girl with tattoos
and piercings before I got married, how can he try to change me. i accept him
the way he was! It`s all about compromise. Why am I the one to compromise for
everything...
My family is no longer my family, Only my PARENTS love me. Both of my brothers
are xxxxx and have hit me, abused me they are xxxx I hate them so much. They
both have been really rude to me and my parents. Both of my brothers have also
hit my parents too and used them for money only. all my life I have done
nothing for my family but I have never dared to hit them or raise my voice on
them. But I dont listen to them and have always done what I wanted...but I feel
bad but I never misbehaved with them like my brothers did!
I am having the most horrible time of my life. I don`t have any body to love
me, care for me after ma parents. But how long will they live! All the guys I
meet are xxxxx, some want to change me, some only want to have sex with me and
I am tired of this xxxx. I want to cry! I want to die! I hate this world! i
hate it so much.
I came across your website. I want a DUA I can recite which can calm me down
and help me find ma destination. PLEASE SIR I am so helpless and xxxx.
I lost my job because the director wanted to xxxx me and I didn`t let him and
he fired me!
I live in a xxxx up country
My parents are very upset about me. I am 23 years old now. My life and age is
speeding up.
Please make Dua for me...
and please give me sumfin to recite!!!
I beg you please make Dua for me.
And I hope to hear from u soon PLEASE
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Answer:
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In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your Statements: I feel VERY BAD FOR THIS ACTION. I have asked Allah to forgive me and I cried and I feel scared of going to hell for my actions. Is there anything I can do, such as give money to poor in a certain amount that Allah will forgive me?
Respected sister in Islam, whatever deeds one might have done in one's past, if one turns to Allah Subhanah in sincere 'Taubah' and seeks forgiveness, Allah Subhanah has promised in the Holy Quran that He will forgive all the sins of such a repentant believer, even if one has committed the gravest sin of all: 'Shirk'! Not only that, our Lord is so Merciful and Generous, that He not only will forgive the sins of such sincerely repentant believers, He will change their evil deeds done into good deeds!
The conditions or ways to seek sincere Taubah or Repentance from the Merciful Lord are:
- One is aware that he has sinned, and feels sorry and ashamed at his sin.
- Makes a solemn covenant and promise with Allah that he will not repeat his sin again.
- Turns to Allah and seeks forgiveness, before he has met with his appointment of death.
- Is a believer and does righteous good deeds thereafter.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54:
(O Prophet) say: "O My servants who have wronged their own souls....Do not despair of Allah's Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you; for then you may get no help from anywhere."
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136:
Allah likes such good people very much, who, if ever they commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings. For who, but Allah, can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah, and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they will reside therein forever! How excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah Furqaan verses 63-71:
The (true) servants of the Merciful are those who walk humbly on the earth. When the ignorant people behave insolently towards them, they say, "Peace to you"; (And those) who pass their nights in prostrating themselves and standing before their Lord and pray, "O our Lord, save us from the torment of Hell, for its torment is killing! It is an evil abode, and an evil resting place". (And those) who, when they spend are neither extravagant, nor miserly, but keep the golden mean between the two extremes. (And those) who do not invoke any god but Allah Alone, nor kill a soul unjustly, which Allah has forbidden, nor commit adultery... He who does this shall be punished for his sin, and his torment shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection, and he shall abide in a state of ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE REPENTED (AFTER THOSE SINS), AND HAVE BELIEVED AND DONE RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For then, Allah will change his evil deeds into good deeds, and He is very Forgiving and Merciful. In fact, one who repents and does righteous deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly should!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54:
When those come to you who believe in Our Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2357 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who repents of a sin is like him who has committed no sin."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2338 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Allah accepts a servant's repentance (taubah) till he gives up his spirit in death."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2339 Narrated by Abu Sa'id
Allah's Messenger (saws) said that the Shaytaan said, "By Thy Might, my Lord, I shall continue to lead Thy servants astray as long as their spirits are in their bodies!" The Lord, Who is Great and Glorious, replied, "By My Might, Glory and Exalted Station, I shall continue to pardon them as long as they ask My forgiveness!"
Thus my respected sister, whatever you might have chosen to do you in your past, if you turn to your Lord Creator in 'taubah', seek sincere forgiveness for your transgressions, and subsequently strive to amend your conduct.....it is expected that you will find your Lord Forgiving and Merciful.
Sahih Muslim Hadith 6499 Narrated by Abu Dharr Ghaffari
Allah's Messenger (saws) said that Allah, the Exalted and Glorious, stated: "He who comes with goodness, there are in store for him ten like those and even more than those; and he who comes with vice, it is only for that that which he is called to account. I even forgive him as I like, and he who draws close to Me by the span of a palm, I draw close to him by the cubit; and he who draws close to Me by the cubit, I draw close to him by the space (covered) by two hands; and he who walks towards Me, I rush towards him; and he who meets Me in the state that his sins fill the earth, but not associating anything with Me, I would meet Him with the same (vastness) of pardon (on My behalf)."
Your Question: .....I came across your website. I want a DUA I can recite which can calm me down and help me find ma destination. PLEASE SIR I am so helpless and xxxx.
My respected sister in Islam, if 'dua' or some recitation alone would have been sufficient to take one away from sin, or guide one to the Straight Path, etc...then the Messenger of Allah (saws) would have recited the 'dua' on the enemies of Islam like Abu Jahl and Abu Lahab and they would have been guided aright!
The truth is sister, 'dua' alone will not help one who does not wish to be guided aright....nor will it help one who does not wish to make the necessary striving to align their actions and their deeds to the guidance of Allah and His Messenger (saws). It is only those who fear their Lord Creator and that Inevitable and Tumultuous Day of Tribunal, sincerely intend to amend their conduct and align their beliefs and their deeds to the guidance of their Lord and His Messenger (saws), and strive the necessary striving to fulfill their this noble intention....it is only such people who compliment their necessary striving with 'dua' and supplications who can expect help from their Lord to fulfill their noble intentions.
Abu Hurairah (r.a.) reported that the Prophet (saws) made mention of a person who travels widely, his hair disheveled, and covered with dust. "He lifts his hands and makes supplication, 'O my Lord......, O my Lord.......,' but his diet is unlawful, his drink is unlawful, his clothes are unlawful, and his nourishment is unlawful. How then can his supplication be accepted?"
Related by Muslim and Ahmad.
The one and only thing which has the power to stop one from falling into perpetual sin is what is known as 'taqwa' in the Glorious Quran! It is only and only this 'taqwa' or the constant remembrance or fear of the Lord which has the capacity and tenacity to enable one to abstain from transgressing the Prescribed Boundaries of their Lord Most Majestic, Most Supreme.
This state of consciousness of standing in the Presence of the Majestic and Supreme Lord on One Inevitable Day is what Allah calls 'taqwa' or piety in His Quran; and it is this 'taqwa' which will inspire one towards doing deeds that would earn one the Eternal Pleasure and Good Will of their Lord, and it is this same 'taqwa' which will inspire one to abstain from doing anything which would bring about the Lord's Unbearable Wrath and Anger.
'Taqwa' means to abstain from doing anything that would bring about the Wrath and Displeasure of the Lord All-Mighty; and to do deeds of righteousness which are commanded by Allah and His Messenger (saws). 'Taqwa' is to live every moment of ones life with the solemn belief that One Inevitable Day every soul will be brought forth in the Presence of the Majestic Lord to give a full accounting of every one of his deeds. 'Taqwa' is to determine before doing anything whether the Lord Most Merciful will be Pleased or Dis-pleased with the deed; if one determines that the Lord will be Pleased with the deed, one must do it wholeheartedly; and if one determines that the deed would bring about the displeasure and Wrath of Allah Subhanah, one must immediately abstain from it. 'Taqwa' is to live every moment of one's life consciously striving to do deeds which would earn one the Pleasure and Good Will of their Lord Most Merciful, and abstain from doing deeds which would bring about His displeasure and Wrath.
If one studies the Glorious Quran, one would realize that
more often than not, wherever Allah Subhanah Promises His slaves the
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 133:
133 Be quick in the race for forgiveness from your Lord and for a Garden whose width is that (of the whole) of the heavens and of the earth; prepared for the 'Muttaqeen'.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 50 Surah Qaaf verses 31-33:
31 And the Garden will be brought nigh to the 'Muttaqeen', no more a thing distant.
32 (A voice will say:) "This is what was promised for you, for everyone who turned (to Allah) in sincere repentance who kept (his law).
33 "Who feared (Allah) Most Gracious unseen and brought a heart turned in devotion (to Him):
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 52 Surah Tur verses 17-18:
17 As to the 'Muttaqeen' they will be in Gardens and in Happiness
18 Enjoying the (Bliss) which their Lord hath bestowed on them and their Lord shall deliver them from the Penalty of the Fire.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 68 Surah Qalam verse 34:
34 Verily for the 'Muttaqeen' are Gardens of Delight in the Presence of their Lord.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 16 Surah Nahl verse 31:
31 Gardens of Eternity which they will enter: beneath them flow (pleasant) rivers: they will have therein all that they wish: thus doth Allah reward the 'Muttaqeen'
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah Furqan verses 15-16:
15 Say: "Is that (fire) better or the eternal Gardens promised to the 'Muttaqeen'? For them that is a reward as well as a goal (of attainment).
16 "For them there will be therein all that they wish for: they will dwell (there) for aye: a promise to be prayed for from thy Lord."
Thus, in conclusion, my dear and beloved sister in Islam, the absolute best way to bring about this reformation in our hearts is to get close to the Remembrance of our Lord Who Created us; and the best way to Remember our Lord is to read, understand, obey, follow and completely submit ourselves to His Glorious Message which He Himself revealed for our guidance, The One and Only Glorious and Noble Quran!
Allah is our witness sister, one who sincerely submits oneself to the Glorious Message of their Lord will find that one's whole life becomes a life spent in the worship and remembrance of their Lord; one's prayers, one's fasts, one's zakat, one's Hajj, one's work, one's relationship with fellow man, in fact, one's every single deed will be aligned to earn the Pleasure and Good Will of one's Lord Most Gracious, Most Merciful .....and it is this same 'submission' which will inspire one to stay away from every single deed which would bring about or ignite the Wrath and Anger and Punishments of the Lord Most Majestic, Most Supreme.
My dear and respected sister, if you could bring yourself to read the Glorious Quran with understanding even only once....and make sincere intention that from this day forward you will align your deeds in accordance with the guidance of the Glorious Quran.....we assure you in the Blessed Name of the Lord Most Gracious, Most Merciful that you will tread the path that leads directly to the Infinite Mercy, Unending Forgiveness, and the Ultimate Rewards of your Lord Most Bounteous.
If you trust the guidance of your Lord Creator and His Messenger (saws), make sincere intention to make your one and only destination the achievement of Paradise and salvation from the Hell Fire, and make the necessary striving to achieve your destination.....Allah is our witness sister, peace, satisfaction, and contentment of the heart will be your constant companions in this world and the Hereafter!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 13 Surah Raad verse 28-29:
The people who have accepted (the Message), their hearts find comfort in the remembrance of Allah. Note it well!, that it is Allah's Remembrance Alone that brings contentment to the hearts! Blessed are those who have accepted the Message and done righteous deeds. They will have a good end.
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah's Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
