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I married by phone and my wife came here in saudi nearly eight month over but still i did not do my vallima please advice me what i do for that

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Answer:

How to do walima

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.395         Narrated by Anas

The Prophet (saws) seeing a yellow mark (of perfume) on the clothes of 'Abdur-Rahman bin 'Auf, said, "What about you?" 'Abdur-Rahman replied, "I have married a woman with a Mahr of gold equal to a date-stone."  The Prophet (saws) said, "May Allah bestow His Blessing on you (in your marriage). Give a wedding banquet, (Walima) even with one sheep."

First and foremost, the ‘walima’ or marriage banquet is not an obligatory rite in Islam, but rather an extremely preferred Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saws).  If one gives a ‘walima’ after their ‘nikaah’, they would be in accordance with the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saws) and thus receive a huge reward from their Lord; and if for any reason, one did not offer a ‘walima’, there is no obligation or sin upon them.

The Way or Sunnah of the Prophet (saws) was that after the Nikaah, he (saws) urged the believers to celebrate the joyous occasion of marriage with a marriage feast or ‘Walima’.  The main wisdom behind holding the wedding feast or ‘walima’ is to announce one’s marriage to the family, friends and society one lives in.

There is no specific time limit ordained in the Sunnah for one to offer one’s ‘walima’ after one’s marriage; but wisdom dictates that one should offer this Sunnah and hold one’s wedding banquet as soon as possible or is easy for him to do so. 

If you have been married for eight months and for some reason were unable to or have not yet offered the ‘walima’, there is absolutely no harm if you wish to do so now.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan